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“Kind words can be short and easy to speak but their echoes are truly endless”

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These words were spoken by Mother Teresa, that tiny Catholic nun who founded the Missionaries of Charity in India. She is now considered to be a saint in the Catholic church. After reading Mother Teresa’s thoughts concerning the endless echoes of the words we speak I couldn’t help but relate the idea to the art of letter writing. What an opportunity we have to send kindness into the world with each letter we write.

I have the ritual of writing a letter each morning with my first cup of coffee. What I should ask myself each morning is whose life can I make brighter today? Sure, it’s fun to share what I’ve been up to and some days that can be pretty interesting and entertaining reading, but what does that sort of news really do for my friend? Not much I’m sure. If however I look for opportunities to say “yes” to their ideas or praise them for something they did, or encourage them for something they’re thinking of doing, well, those words could really make a difference in my pen friend’s day.

I’m happy to say I always have lots of wonderful letters waiting to be answered. I’m blessed to have many penfriends. I hope you have many penfriends too. Each letter friend is important to me. I love the one to one conversations and Mother Teresa was also about the one to one. She writes, ” I do not agree with the big way of doing things. What matters is the individual. To get to love a person, we must come into close contact with them. If we wait until we get the numbers then we will be lost in the numbers and we will never be able to show that love and respect for the person.

Every time we write a letter we have the opportunity to show someone the love and respect Mother Teresa talks about. In this way letter writing is more than a fun free-time activity. It becomes a ministry of love, a ministry we can carry on all by ourselves, in our comfy slippers, any hour of the day or night. While some people spew hate, fear and retribution around our world we can be working against those nasty efforts by sending out kind words which echoe melodiously all the way up to heaven.

Don’t just write any old kind of letters. Write love letters. What the world needs now more than anything is love sweet love and we are all capable of sending that needed love out into the world one letter at a time. Our penfriends may be so moved by our kindness they’ll start writing their own love letters too and on and on it could go.

Mother Teresa was only one person, and so am I, and so are you, but we just might be able to accomplish more than we think. Mother Teresa’s way was not in big things but in doing small things with great love. We should all try that too. We may never know the full extent of what our kind letters will accomplish until we get to heaven, but once there we’ll have to look up Mother Teresa and tell her how she inspired us. At least I hope she inspired you. She sure inspired me.

“Whoever is happy will make others happy too”

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So says Anne Frank. Do you agree? Happy people certainly could lighten the mood in a room, but I think for happiness to be transferred from one person to another there must be some sort of personal sharing. It could be a compliment, a warm smile, some understanding words or a bit of welcome good news. Nothing comes from nothing.

Every letter we write has the potential to be a gift of caring and sharing but some letters show we care more than others. If our letter is entirely about us, as interesting as our lives might be, we can’t expect our letter to warm the heart of our pen friend. Share your news, yes, but include kind words about your pen friend. You might be thinking those kind words, but unless your friend is a mind reader it’s best to put those words into print.

When my penfriend shares happy thoughts concerning the times we’ve spent together that makes me feel happy too. You see, it’s a compliment to know someone is thinking of us, to know we matter to others. We feel appreciated and who doesn’t like to feel appreciated? Simply finding a personal letter in our mailbox is a delight, but if that letter includes kind words and compliments, well, it can make someone’s day. We all have the power to lift the spirits of others with every interaction, and every letter we write. As we do this good deed we not only make others happier but we feel better about ourselves too.

You might just write “Smile” on your letter envelope as my friend Andy does. It’s a simple gesture but it really has made me smile. It just might make your friends smile too. Any attempt to share our joy with others is a good thing and it’s good for us because sharing doubles the joy. It really does. Don’t take my word for it. Write a kind letter full of compliments and see how you feel. You just might get a kind letter in return. Your kindness may start a chain of kind events happening all around.

So next time you’d like to make the world a better place just by being you try writing a loving letter to a friend or acquaintance or long lost family member or anyone at all. When we care about others not just about ourselves magic happens. I’ve felt this magic and you will too.

Why not write a letter

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Today we have snow, lots and lots of snow so I won’t be going out to see friends, but I can still visit with friends. All I have to do is write my friends a letter. It’s fun!

I make a delicious hot drink and pull out some paper. I might do a little drawing on that paper first because I do like to dabble in art, but then the fun begins. I get comfortable and just think of my friend writing freely as I would speak to her.

I share what’s been going on in my life – what I’ve been reading, where I’ve been going, what I’ve been thinking and I ask my friend those same questions. What has she been reading? Where has he been going? What is she thinking about these days? A letter must not be only about me.

I think of a time when my friend and I were together and I reflect on that time as I write. Reflection is good. Lord Byron said, “A life without reflection is a sad affair” and I agree. Writing a letter is the perfect time to reflect on anything and everything. We then share those reflections with our friend. Sharing doubles the joy and divides the sorow you know.

My new patio garden

I might enclose a picture in my letter. A picture is worth a thousand words. I’d been telling my letter friends, friends from all around the world, about the garden I was putting in last Summer. Well, why not send them a picture? Most of these people will never have the chance to come to my home for a tea for two under the umbrella – unfortunately. At least they can see my garden in the pages of their letter.

If you’re not already a letter writer you might not know who to write, but once you become a letter writer you’ll have letters to answer, lots and lots of letters. That’s the magic of letter writing. When you give good things come back to you and because you’ll want to answer those letters it will be very easy to know who to write next and what to say. You’ll respond to the things your letter friend told you in her last missive. It’s a conversation not an essay. You write of something going on in your life and then the next paragraph is all about something your letter friend told you. A little give and take makes your letter fun for your friend to read. They want to hear what you thought of their comments, their actions, their projects. A letter is about you, but not all about you.

I’m fortunate to have a lot of delightful letter friends, friends like Becky Ann from Orchard Park, New York, U.S.A. It’s always so nice to get her letter. She lifts me up as she describes the interesting things she’s doing and the beautiful things in her world. I try to lift her up with my letters too. That is the point of friendship, isn’t it? Sure, there’s always doom and gloom in the world but why focus on it. It’s much nicer to focus on the good and the beautiful. As we write about such things we feel good and beautiful. Thoughts have power you know. Maybe you should turn off the news and read a good and inspiring book or take a walk in nature, then write a letter to tell your friend all about those things.



So although I look out my window and see a cold, snowy day, my heart is filled with the warmth of the Thanksgiving Season and I want to share that warmth with others. I may not be able to visit friends in person but there’s nothing stopping me from visiting them via letter.
Letters waiting for my answer

Which letter shall I answer? Fear not, I do have a system. Yes, I’m blessed to have many correspondents and many letters to answer. I haven’t taken the time to count the letters waiting for my attention, but lots of letters is what happens when you write one, two or three letters a day. Your mailbox is a very busy place. It’s filled with love coming and going. So though it’s been fun writing to you about letters it’s now time for me to enjoy writing a letter. If you’re one of my pen friends that letter might just be to YOU!

Do you recognize the letter I’ll be answering? Is it from you? Beautiful stationery deserves beautiful stationery in return so I’m using paper in my Jane Austen collection and of course I’ll also be using my lovely Mont Blanc fountain pen. I hope you’ll be writing a letter too. I’m sure there are lots of people who would love to hear from you and of course you could always write to me. I’d love to hear from you,

So bye for now, be happy and just WRITE!